And when the tumult dwindled to a calm,
I left him practicing the hundredth psalm……
In today’s fast-paced world, one may wonder if it’s possible not to get angry or offended, seeing that circumstances will not always work to your favor, seeing that friends, family, bosses, employees, spouses, children will always step on your toes. It is a frequent happening to see wives red with anger because of a momenta insensitivity of her husband, and vice- versa.
According to the dictionary, Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure and grievance, it is an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged or denied and a tendency to react through retaliation.
Truth be told, no matter how gracious one may be, no matter how noble his intentions may be, he may sooner or later fall into the web of anger, not necessarily planned by him but the eventuality of circumstances beyond his control. Anger is a universal problem; it is not the exclusive preserve of any race, tribe or culture. Anger most times than not is negative, never producing good results, it prevents one from achieving his/her goals and purposes, it makes one appear mean and foolish and ugly, and can create extreme emotions which can cause distress. It hampers total well- being, and may also lead to behaviors that harm people and your life in general. Anger is never attractive.
Anger management on the other hand is training for temper control and is the skill of remaining calm. As Prima Donnaz, it is important for us to learn and practice anger management. It is almost impossible not to get angry but it is very possible not to give in to our immediate emotions and let the spark go out of our head.
Sometime ago, at the end of a church service, a young woman had little conflict with a security officer, and anger began to bubble up within the both parties, before long, the anger had escalated into something else, a scene was created, and this young lady turned into something else- she kept screaming at the top of her voice. As I watched, people began to murmur…a comment caught my attention, “she has a useless character”. Yes! It took just a few minutes for her to be labelled as that. At that point in time, at the instant she decided to let go to her passions, and throw caution to the wind, became a slave. She instantly surrendered her dignity and kingship in exchange for a morsel of bread. I felt pity for her, If only she counted the cost before throwing caution to the wind, she would have made a better decision.
Romans 12: 21 says, “ Be not overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”. Our poet who gave us our entry poem shows us how! Immediately I saw the poem, I rushed over to read the hundredth psalm! We shouldn’t allow anger govern us, instead we should govern anger, it is an object of control or a subject to control- depending on the side of divide you choose to belong.
So, how then do we manage anger? The answer is simple- Self-control! Prov 16:32 says, “he that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; And he that ruleth his spirit, than he that taketh a city.
Self-control is the ability to control your own behavior especially in terms of reactions and impulses. Self- control is Kingship. One who has mastered this art(self-control) is a King and no longer a slave to his passions or circumstances. William George Jordan said, ” Man at every instance in his life is either a King or a slave. He is a slave to the extent to which he lets his passions control him, he is a King to the extent to which he can control his passions”– worthy of note here is the truth that there must be controlling involved.
As a Man surrenders to a wrong appetite, to any human weakness; as he falls prostrate in hopeless subjection to any condition, to any environment, to any failure, he quickly becomes a slave. As he day by day crushes out human weakness, masters opposing elements within him, and day by day re-creates a new self from the sin and folly of his past,—then he is a King.
But before one can exercise self- control over anger, he needs to draw out a table highlighting the benefits of anger if there are any, and then he needs to enlighten himself on the Kingship of Self- control. The world will always tempt you in acting like a fool- whether or not you take up the position depends on your ability to exercise self- control.