No word has been more misused and abused than the word “Love”. Almost everyone uses that word with a majority oblivious of its true meaning, and power. What does love mean to you? How do you know you are in love? It is commonplace to hear people say, ‘Oh, I love that guy” or… “I have FALLEN in love with that lady” (as if love is a trap that one falls into). Anyways, I digress.
Bisi Adewale, a seasoned relationship/family life coach authoritatively says, “What people term love may actually be trouble”. Hmm. How do we know that we are in TROUBLE and not in LOVE? Bisi Adewale explains with the following salient points…
1. You are in trouble if your relationship is negatively affecting your relationship with God- Our first call as believers is into a love relationship with God, nothing else must tamper with this link. If your relationship is negatively affecting your relationship with God, you are not in love but in trouble. True love recognizes Jesus as its foundation.
2. You are in trouble if your relationship is negatively affecting your studies/career: True love is not distractive, rather it inspires and encourages you to be the best. If your relationship is preventing you from making significant progress in life, you are not in love but in trouble. A relationship that does not inspire you will “expire” you.
3. You are in trouble if your relationship is dictatorial: If your relationship is not one of co-operation but dictation, you are in trouble. A word of advice here: Never marry anyone you cannot influence. No one is a final authority on wisdom. No one. True love is consensual, not dictatorial.
4. You are in trouble if your relationship promotes lack of self-control: Self-control is one of the fruits of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). If your relationship promotes and encourages lack of self-control, you are in trouble. Verbal, physical and emotional abuses, as well as pre-marital or extra-marital sex are all indices of lack of self-control. Sweetheart, any relationship that involves abuse and immorality is trouble.
To be continued…..