Oh la la!!! My love for Michelle’s mind is just indescribable!!! Develop Good Shopping Skills, what a title!!!! What Michelle shared in this chapter is Amazing…hollup! Before I continue, I hope my review of this book is awakening you in a desire to get a copy for yourself? Trust me, as far as I know, this review is poor compared to the magnificient work Michelle did in her book. So let’s not “jonz” (slang for deceive) ourselves okay? Get a copy.
That said, let hear Michelle:
Now that we’ve established that its the man who does the finding and pursuing, let us also lay the groundwork for what should take place after he’s approached you. This is when the dating process begins. Let’s be perfectly clear from the top. Dating does not mean mating (Preach Sister!!) Dating is a specific season in the relationship designed for gathering information or data, not goose bumps haha). Why information? Because, should the relationship go further into the realm of marriage, this is the foundation you’ll be building on for the rest of your life.
You say you are in the market for a husband? Let me give you simple guidelines that should not be ignored.
1. Check the Label- Is that man a self-made man or a vessel fashioned and yielded to the Lord? Write this on a tablet in your heart: if a man is not submitted to God, he will not have the capacity to love you the way you want to be loved.
2. Feel the Fabric: What is he made of? Does he possess character, integrity, wisdom and compassion? How is his relationship with his family? How about his friends?
3. Get a Good Fit: Since you’ve completed your course on Art Appreciation and gotten a life, you should be able to figure out if this man fits into God’s design for your future. Are your goals complementary? You need to find out if both of you are going in the same direction.
4. Take a Look at your budget: Check your budget. Is the relationship too costly spiritually, emotionally or physically? Or is it making you a richer person? God’s design is that your relationship should make you more effective in service to him.
5. Don’t shop when you are hungry: You are bound to scoop up something you don’t need if you go shopping when you are hungry.
6. Talk to Your Personal Shopper: When in doubt about a purchase, the best fashion fashion consultant and interior decorator (for your heart) I know of is the Holy Spirit. He knows exactly what you need so definitely check with him before making any purchase.
Personal Note: (On point Number 6) Last month, I read a book by Myles Munroe of blessed memory, “Waiting and Dating “and in one of the chapters, he stated boldly “You are ready for a relationship when you don’t need it’. I thought that “too audacious”, and I dwell on that statement for days. Eventually, I got the import of those words. Desperation will rub you off any sense of objectivity, it will make you settle for less than God’s best, and will bring about much frustration when the dust is settled.