I love dancing. I have always loved it. In Primary school, I danced ballet. In secondary school, well, I was exposed to other ‘kinds’ of dances : ) I stopped dancing in my first year in the University for some reasons. I really miss it, so I make up for it in church (lol)
Today, Michelle talks about learning how to dance. Before you get carried away by the topic, let me quickly chip this here- she was really talking about submission. Mehn, this topic has sparked a lot of controversies within and without the body of Christ. So, let’s briefly hear about this issue from a godly woman’s perspective.
Michelle says: Most of us do very well dancing to life’s tune when we’re on our own. But when its time to follow a partner, we stumble. We get out of step. We thread on toes. I believe that one of the biggest problems people have with the concept of submission is a lack of trust,- a lack of faith, a lack of certainty that if we stay in order, the person we’re dancing with will too. That’s why the dating process is so crucial for processing information. Now is the time to find out if this man- who you’re thinking you might want to spend the rest of your days with- is submitted to Christ in regard to not only you but every aspect of his life.
Submission does not mean being a doormat. It means cooperating with your man, fitting in with your husband’s plans, yielding to him as the spiritual head and leader of your family. Submission for him means putting aside his own interests in order to care for you. If both partners have a strong relationship with Christ, this will set the foundational rhythm for a graceful dance.
Want to know how good a dancer you’ll be in marriage? Take a look at well you dance to your boss’s tune, or to the beat of those in authority. No man likes to waltz with a bad dancer! If he sees a future of sore toes ahead of him, he’ll go in search of a smoother partner.
Personal Notes: We don’t miraculously become new creatures in relationships or marriages. We carry who we are into our partnerships. If you are still single, now is the time to begin to learn submission. God in his graciousness has established a structure for the success of our relationships/marriages and for our overall good. It’s better to yield to his plan. Disobedience to principles does us no good. Thankfully, we have people in our lives we can be submissive to- God, parents, relatives, mentors, spiritual parents, constituted authorities etc. Single-hood is a rehearsal for marriage. You’ll eventually take into marriage what you’ve practised. Be wise.