So today’s title is sorta misleading. When I got to this chapter, I really thought she was going to preach about environmental cleanliness and all that, but I was surprised to discover that she was talking on Cohabiting before marriage. Michelle starts this chapter with a warning…
Don’t, under any circumstances move in with your friend, significant other, intended—whatever you want to call him. You are setting up yourself for more problems than you will ever need. Stop making it for these men not to make a commitment! You move in and end up cleaning, cooking, doing the laundry, being a wife before it’s time (which is the recipe for sour relationships as well as sour wine). If you break this rule, you will be breaking several others because the temptation will be too great. It will be easier to fall into premarital sex if you’re not there already.
And what about how living together affects those outside of your household? You can scream to high heaven that you are abstaining, but the situation leaves too much room for the imagination of onlookers to run rampant. And it makes you a stumbling block for others.
Principles women do not lower their standards and settle for living arrangements that are beneath their station in life. If a man wants to take you home, he should be willing to pay the price. Stop looking for love in all the wrong places and through all the wrong methods, and focus on the One who has always loved you with an everlasting love.
When you fall in love with Jesus. He will pour himself out to you and love you like you’ve never been loved before. As you become complete in his love, you’ll find yourself more satisfied than you’ve ever been. That is the moment you become an irresistible woman that a man has to have. You are not relying on anyone for your happiness. You are a complete woman, in love with her life and her God.
Personal Note: The last paragraph summarises what this whole book is all about—Becoming an Irresistible starts from a thriving, filling and satisfactory relationship with the HIM. He is the one that truly makes us beautiful, not our wisdom tips, or our systems or methods. This is the point I personally want to pitch my tent forever- in a forever love relationship with Jesus.